In the late afternoon in Da Lat, I watched the sunset with my new friend who was staying at the same homestay. We discussed how we each handle difficult situations.

I shared with him an impactful quote from a book I had read earlier that day. It recounted a story of a woman struggling between divorcing or staying with an older man she met in a coffee shop. The wise man in the book advised her simply, “In any situation, remember, you still have the right to stand up and leave.” After much inner struggle, the woman chose to leave her unhappy marriage and embark on a much better life.

Simultaneously, I faced a minor conflict with the office owner who was stressing me out with unreasonable requests and a lack of respect and fairness. Naturally, I felt frustrated. Being a small business owner comes with numerous challenges and daily headaches. While there are moments of satisfaction, most days are filled with stress.

In that moment, the same wise words echoed in my mind, “In any situation, remember, you still have the right to stand up and leave.” I felt a sudden calm wash over me. I let go of my worries and fears, composed myself, and returned to the table to assert myself. I stated firmly, “If you wish to alter the agreement and threaten to dismiss me if I disagree, go ahead. But ensure you honor our contract. I prefer not to negotiate under such conditions. Regardless of your position, let’s abide by our agreement. I need a workspace for which I pay; please conduct yourself professionally and refrain from implying that my presence is dispensable. If you persist, be prepared to pay the penalty, and I will leave.”

At that moment, I realized the simplicity of it all. Nothing is too crucial to sacrifice. If something must come to an end, let it. Every situation has its rules; engage consciously. Consider the worst outcome and evaluate if you can handle it. If you can, accept it; if not, refrain from participating. And always remember your right to stand up and leave.